After a while you learn the subtle difference
Between holding a hand and chaining a soul,
And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning
And company doesn’t mean security.
And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts
And presents aren’t promises …
After a while you learn…
That even sunshine burns if you get too much.
So you plant your garden and decorate your own soul,
Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
Jorge Luis Borges, from “You Learn” (via fassadenmensch)
Of course, Borges was referring to a woman… or to women…
because as much as I love much of Borges’ writing…
well, he was something of a male prig, wasn’t he.
Yet still, somehow, he speaks something of the horrible truth,
as it speaks to all of us.